Being More Assertive - Respect Yourself
As an author, presenter, life coach and lifestyle expert, Jacqui Easton introduces people to the beauty of being themselves – inside and out. Her passion is to help people to understand their true value and to enjoy being yourself right here and now, and to enjoy more spark in your whole life. Contact www.crownside.com email jeba@iinet.net.au Tel 0408 442 806
If you feel the need to be more assertive, what that is saying to you is that you have a feeling that you want to be heard, that your opinion is worth listening to, standing up for yourself and in what you believe – and that maybe at the moment these things are not happening either at all or not enough for you. Being assertive is really about being truthful – to yourself and in aspects of your life which could include your work place. You do not have to do anything – it is about being your true self. To do this you want to know who that is! Identifying why you want to be more assertive and what about, is key to making it happen.
If you find yourself saying “I wish I could be more assertive so that people would listen to me” all you need to do is to increase your sense of worth or how valuable you feel about yourself – you need Million Dollar thinking all the time. When you think that you are worth the time and effort, and that your opinion is worth listening to, regardless of what others think, your actions match your thinking, so that you behave in a way that helps you to say what you think with confidence, your voice is physically clearer and you are able to disagree and say no to others, and because you know you are being truthful – no guilt, and people treat you with respect.
Being more assertive is about being more authentic – and a key tool for finding your authentic self is about setting up boundaries of respect with yourself and others. Without even realising it we all have boundaries that we set up with ourselves and which flow on to others. The question is – “Are they boundaries of respect or boundaries of disrespect?”
People treat you in the same way you treat yourself. “No” is the magic word that helps you to set these boundaries that help you to fill up on the inside and be all of who you are, and enjoy being with others who respect and honour you. It gives you the awareness to realise that you have choices to change your day. Changing your life starts with changing something small in your day.
What you can do today - Activity
A helpful question is to ask yourself “Why do I want to be more assertive” and “What do I want to be more assertive about”. Where is it that you feel you are not being your true self – is there a part of you that feels is being suppressed? Write down your feelings. How can you turn this around? Is there any limiting belief which is causing this situation to happen? Would a change of attitude set you free from this concern? Make list of possible solutions and go for it!
